A.Y. Program Idea: “Unveiling the Extraordinary in the Ordinary: The Book of Ruth’s Timeless Message of Purpose in God’s Plan”

Look at your life, in all its regular-ness, in all the day by day decisions you have to make. Does it seem insignificant to you?

The book of Ruth may be a challenge to people who feel the need to be exceptional or special. The power of her story lies in how ordinary it is.

The book of Ruth unveils a captivating narrative that goes beyond its surface, inviting readers to delve into its intricacies and nuances. By examining the story’s details and the inner workings of its characters, motivations, and the complexities of their circumstances, a truly compelling narrative unfolds. Remarkably, the book of Ruth embraces the ordinariness of everyday life more than any other book in the Bible.

This biblical account explores how seemingly mundane life circumstances, facing dead-end jobs, navigating through poverty, and simply practicing basic decency, can wield the power to bring about radical changes and even contribute to the salvation of the world. By peering beneath the surface and exploring the richness of its content, the book of Ruth reveals profound insights and timeless lessons that resonate with the realities of our own lives.

The story of Ruth is a reminder to all of us that what we are up to today, no matter how seemingly trivial, is part of a plan that God is designing for the fate of future generations, and that has already been in the works for generations before we even came around. All of it has meaning and purpose, in some way or another.

Background

The Book of Ruth is a profound and captivating narrative found in the Old Testament of the Bible. Set during the time of the Judges, it tells the story of a Moabite woman named Ruth and her journey of faith, loyalty, and redemption.

The book begins in the land of Moab, where a famine forces an Israelite family from Bethlehem to seek refuge. Elimelech, his wife Naomi, and their two sons, Mahlon and Kilion, settle in Moab. Tragically, Elimelech dies, and their sons marry Moabite women, Ruth and Orpah.

After many years, both Mahlon and Kilion also pass away, leaving Naomi and her daughters-in-law widowed and in grief. Hearing news of God’s provision and blessing back in Bethlehem, Naomi decides to return home, urging her daughters-in-law to stay in Moab and find new husbands among their people. Orpah tearfully agrees, but Ruth clings to Naomi, making her famous declaration, “Where you go, I will go; and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God.”

With unwavering loyalty, Ruth accompanies Naomi to Bethlehem. As they arrive, they face uncertainty and struggle, but Ruth’s commitment leads her to glean in the fields of Boaz, a wealthy and kind landowner who becomes an essential figure in the story.

Impressed by Ruth’s character and faithfulness, Boaz extends his protection and provides for her. In a beautiful twist, Boaz turns out to be a close relative of Elimelech, making him a potential kinsman-redeemer for Ruth and Naomi.

Following cultural customs and driven by love and devotion, Boaz marries Ruth, securing their family’s future and bringing immense joy to Naomi. Their union leads to the birth of Obed, who becomes the grandfather of King David, a significant figure in biblical history.

In her book “Patriarchs and Prophets,” Ellen G. White discusses the story of Ruth within the context of the genealogy of Jesus Christ. She highlights the faith and loyalty exhibited by Ruth, emphasizing that her humble and selfless actions led her to become an ancestor of the Messiah.

The Book of Ruth serves as a powerful testament to God’s providence, faithfulness, and redemptive plan for His people. It highlights the virtues of loyalty, kindness, and trust, while also emphasizing the inclusion of foreigners and the potential for restoration even in the midst of difficult circumstances.

Ultimately, the story of Ruth echoes themes of love, devotion, and God’s sovereign plan, showcasing the significance of individual choices and the profound impact they can have on shaping the destiny of generations to come.

Activity/Group Discussion Questions:

These questions can serve as starting points for meaningful discussions among the youth, promoting engagement with the text and encouraging personal application of its timeless principles.

• Read Ruth chapter 1.
  • What lessons can we learn from Ruth’s decision to remain with Naomi and embrace her faith, even though it meant leaving her homeland and familiar culture behind?
  • What parts of the story do you find relatable?
  • Which characters do you sympathize with the most?
  • What do you think of Naomi’s words in verses 21-22?
  • What do you think of how she ascribes her suffering to God?
  • Naomi asks for her name to be changed to the word “Mara,” which means “bitter.” Reflect on sources of bitterness in your own life.
  • How does the story of Ruth challenge your own sense of what is important in your life?
  • What practical lessons from the book of Ruth can we apply to our personal lives as Seventh-day Adventist youth today?
  • How can we live out the values of loyalty, kindness, and obedience to God in our daily walk with Him?
• Read Ruth chapter 2.
  • Make a list of everything that Boaz does right, and then try to think of a possible modern equivalent.
  • What are some of the social issues that Boaz confronts in the way he treats Ruth?
  • How does Boaz exemplify the principles of justice, compassion, and kindness towards Ruth and Naomi?
  • How can we apply these principles in our own lives?
  • Ruth and Boaz’s union leads to the lineage of King David and ultimately Jesus Christ. Reflect on the significance of God’s providence and how He can work through ordinary individuals to fulfill His purposes. How can we trust in God’s providence and guidance in our own lives?
  • The book of Ruth challenges societal norms and prejudices by showcasing the acceptance and integration of a foreigner into the Israelite community. How can we promote inclusivity and embrace people from different cultures and backgrounds within our church and society?
• Read Ruth chapter 3.
  • What is the (obvious) goal Naomi has in mind by getting Ruth to bathe, wear perfume, and put on her nicest clothes before going to see Boaz?
  • How do you see the nighttime interaction between Ruth and Boaz? Is it something risqué, or relatively wholesome? Moreover, does that matter to you directly? Does this story have a great or small effect on your overall ethics around sexuality?
  • What differences do you notice between the way Ruth and Boaz’s culture approaches marriage versus your own culture?
  • How would this situation be different if it were happening today in your culture?
  • Ruth’s loyalty and selflessness are evident throughout the book. How can we cultivate and demonstrate these qualities in our relationships and interactions with others?
  • Ruth’s story highlights the power of faith, trust, and obedience to God. How can we strengthen our faith and deepen our reliance on God, even during difficult circumstances?
• Read Ruth chapter 4.
  • In the conversation with the other possible redeemer, do you think Boaz knew that mentioning he would have to marry Ruth the Moabite might cause the other man to back out of the deal?
  • When the people bear witness to the transaction where Boaz acquires Elimelech’s property and family, they declare their wish for Ruth to become like Rachel and Leah. In what ways does the ending of this story make that wish come true? See Genesis 35:20-28 for context.
  • The story of Ruth portrays the theme of redemption. Discuss the ways in which God’s redemptive plan unfolds through the lives of Ruth and Boaz. How does this theme relate to our own experiences of redemption in Christ?
  • The book of Ruth highlights the importance of community and the role it plays in supporting individuals during challenging times. Discuss the significance of the community’s response to Ruth and Naomi’s needs and how we can foster a similar supportive environment within our church community.

Highlights/Conclusion:

Ruth, a foreigner from Moab, but her choice to stay with Naomi demonstrates that something of Israel’s laws are already written in her heart. The Fifth Commandment (Exodus 20:12) which enjoins children to make an effort to care for their parents in their vulnerable older age, Ruth exemplifies this principle of filial duty, demonstrating remarkable kindness that will ultimately bear fruit in her own life.

In “Christ’s Object Lessons,” Ellen G. White refers to Ruth as an example of one who faithfully followed God’s leading. She emphasizes Ruth’s obedience, trust, and the rewards she received for her unwavering commitment. Ruth’s poverty and humility, and the blessedness of those who recognize their spiritual poverty and rely on God for provision and guidance.

When Boaz enters the picture, we discover that he is a man of significant wealth and influence in Bethlehem (Ruth 2:1). He encounters Ruth while she is trying to start working as a gleaner in the fields, and goes out of his way to ensure that she is safe in the workplace and provided for in her basic needs.

Boaz’s kindness and generosity not only reflect his character, but also serve as a vital illustration of the virtues expected from a faithful Israelite man. His genuine concern extends to the well-being of foreigners, widows, oppressed women, and adherence to God’s moral principles. Against the backdrop of the tumultuous era depicted in the Book of Judges, both Ruth and Boaz shine as a breath of fresh air. While not without imperfections, they embody simplicity, benevolence, humility, and a genuine consideration for others.

Boaz is immediately captivated by Ruth’s character and kindness. He goes above and beyond to ensure her safety and provides for her needs, instructing his workers to leave extra grain for her to collect. Ruth, humbled by Boaz’s generosity, expresses her gratitude and respect for him.

As time passes, Ruth’s admiration for Boaz grows, and Naomi encourages her to seek his protection and support as a potential kinsman-redeemer. Following Naomi’s advice, Ruth visits Boaz one night while he is sleeping and uncovers his feet, a symbolic act of seeking his protection and willingness to marry her. Boaz, touched by Ruth’s humility and loyalty, recognizes her virtue and expresses his willingness to fulfill the role of the kinsman-redeemer.

Ruth and Naomi hatched a plan. It’s a little bit strange, quite bold, and a bit forward even by today’s standards. While many people have speculated at a sexual connotation to the events described in Ruth 3:1-15, it seems unlikely that anything more than what is described took place. 

However, it is worth noting that in Ruth 3:14, Ruth and Boaz do take precautions to make sure nobody finds out that Ruth spent the night asleep beside Boaz. There is enough going on to serve as a slight warning – this isn’t necessarily the best way to go about proposing marriage, or at least it’s not the primary or mandatory way for Bible-believing people to pursue a marriage.

Boaz takes immediate action to secure Ruth’s future. He seeks out the closer relative who has the first right of redemption but eventually arranges for himself to marry Ruth. In doing so, Boaz demonstrates his commitment to upholding the customs and laws of the community while prioritizing Ruth’s well-being and future.

If anything, we may find ourselves laughing at the chaotic-good forwardness of Naomi, who proposed this plan. This seems like the kind of strategy that could only be cooked up by a tired but bold old woman who has seen and overcome too much in her own time and is, frankly, not interested in waiting around for things to happen or asking for more permission or approval from others than absolutely necessary. There is a charming human-ness to this part of the story, a window into the kind of thing that can happen when the perfect mix of desperation, courage, opportunity, and goodwill come together.

And so we reach what is almost the end of one of the quaintest love stories in the Bible. But before we touch the ultimate conclusion, we need to step back. One essential detail of this story cannot be overlooked – the ethnic difference between Ruth and Boaz.

Ruth and Boaz marry, and their union not only brings personal joy but also carries significant implications for the larger narrative of God’s redemptive plan. Ruth, a Moabite foreigner, becomes part of the lineage leading to King David and ultimately to Jesus Christ.

Boaz is, of course, an Israelite of the tribe of Judah, living in Bethlehem. Ruth, on the other hand, is a Moabite, from the other side of the Jordan River and the Dead Sea. Ruth is not only a Gentile, but a living symbol of the fragmentation of the family of Israel.

Ruth as an example of one who faithfully followed God’s leading. She emphasizes Ruth’s selflessness, trust, and willingness to embrace God’s providence, illustrating the principles of faith and obedience that are applicable to believers today.

Many centuries before, God had made a promise to Abraham, to give him children as numerous as the stars, and a legacy that would see God’s blessing come to the whole world through those descendants. But after the first time Abraham hears that promise (Genesis 12), his family was split up: his nephew Lot broke away from the family and moved off to Sodom. So Abraham’s descendants went on to be the Israelites, and Lot’s descendants went on to be … the Moabites.

And this means that the coming together of Boaz and Ruth is also a re-uniting of family lineage that had been torn apart for centuries. Abraham’s family that was broken up all those generations ago is coming back together in Boaz and Ruth.

The hand of Providence lingers quietly and confidently in the background of Ruth. You can almost see God smiling in the background as all these story threads are being tied up.

At every turn in this story, God is acting behind the scenes, using the simple, everyday acts of loyalty and faithfulness by relatively insignificant people to bring about the future of a whole nation, and to keep his promise to save the world.

Ruth and Boaz appear again in Matthew chapter 1, in a genealogical record. Not only were they the great-grandparents of King David, the first decent king of Israel, but they also ultimately ended up being ancestors to Jesus himself. Their complex and unlikely love story was one small piece in God’s plan to restore and redeem the whole world – to truly keep that promise made to Abraham so long ago.

The book of Ruth holds valuable lessons for the youth. Here are some key lessons they can glean:

• Faithfulness and Loyalty: Ruth’s unwavering commitment to Naomi demonstrates the importance of faithfulness and loyalty in our relationships. The youth can learn the significance of standing by family and friends, even during challenging times.
• Trusting in God’s Providence: Ruth’s trust in God’s leading and her willingness to step out in faith can inspire the youth to trust in God’s providence in their own lives. They can learn to rely on God’s guidance and provision, even when facing uncertain situations.
• Embracing Cultural Diversity: The story of Ruth teaches the value of accepting and embracing individuals from different cultures and backgrounds. The youth can learn to foster inclusivity and demonstrate Christ’s love to people from diverse ethnicities within their church community and society.
• Community Support and Care: The support and care provided by the community to Ruth and Naomi highlight the importance of community in times of need. The youth can learn the significance of offering assistance and being a source of encouragement to those facing difficulties.
• God’s Redemption Plan: The book of Ruth unveils God’s redemptive plan, as Ruth’s marriage to Boaz leads to the lineage of Jesus Christ. The youth can understand that God can work through ordinary individuals to accomplish His purposes, and they can have hope in God’s redemptive plan for their own lives.
• Acts of Kindness and Compassion: Ruth and Boaz exemplify kindness and compassion in their interactions with others. The youth can learn the importance of showing kindness to those in need, following the example of Christ’s love and care for others.
• Obedience to God’s Moral Principles: The book of Ruth highlights the adherence to God’s moral guidelines, such as the principle of caring for family members. The youth can learn the importance of living according to God’s principles and applying His teachings in their daily lives.
• Patience and Perseverance: Ruth’s journey involved patience and perseverance as she gleaned in the fields and waited for God’s guidance. The youth can learn the value of patience and perseverance in their own lives, trusting that God is working even in times of waiting.
• Humility and Servanthood: Both Ruth and Boaz display humility and a servant’s heart. The youth can learn the importance of humility and serving others selflessly, reflecting the character of Christ in their actions and attitudes.
• God’s Restoration and Blessing: The story of Ruth illustrates God’s ability to restore and bless those who remain faithful to Him. The youth can find encouragement in knowing that God can bring restoration and blessings in their lives as they walk in obedience and faithfulness.

A Modern Day Ruth

• “Where you go, I will go; where you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my people, and your God my God.” – Modern-day Ruths display unwavering loyalty and commitment to their God and loved ones, standing by them through thick and thin, regardless of the circumstances.
• “I will not leave you until I have done all that you ask of me.” – Modern-day Ruths exhibit a strong sense of responsibility and dedication, going above and beyond to fulfill their commitments and support those in need.
• “Your kindness has touched my heart, and I am grateful for your generosity.” – Modern-day Ruths express gratitude and appreciation for the acts of kindness they receive, acknowledging the impact of others’ generosity in their lives.
• “I may be a stranger, but I am willing to work hard and make a positive contribution to this community.” – Modern-day Ruths embrace their role as outsiders, demonstrating a strong work ethic and a willingness to integrate into new environments and contribute to the betterment of their communities.
• “I trust in God’s plan for my life, even when it seems uncertain or challenging.” – Modern-day Ruths exhibit unwavering faith and trust in God’s guidance, relying on His wisdom and strength to navigate through life’s ups and downs.
• “I will use my voice to speak up for justice and advocate for the marginalized.” – Modern-day Ruths are advocates for social justice, using their voices and influence to stand up against oppression and work towards equality and fairness for all.
• “I am committed to honoring my family, caring for them in their times of need, and preserving our heritage and values.” – Modern-day Ruths prioritize family bonds and understand the importance of preserving family traditions, values, and legacies.
• “I choose love over bitterness and forgiveness over resentment, seeking reconciliation and healing in relationships.” – Modern-day Ruths exemplify a spirit of forgiveness, choosing love and compassion over bitterness and resentment, actively working towards reconciliation and healing in their relationships.
• “I embrace the opportunity to learn and grow, continuously striving for personal and spiritual development.” – Modern-day Ruths have a thirst for knowledge and personal growth, actively seeking opportunities to learn, develop their skills, and deepen their relationship with God.
• “I am not defined by my past or circumstances but by the choices I make and the character I cultivate.” – Modern-day Ruths recognize that their identity and worth are not determined by their past or current circumstances but by the choices they make and the virtues they embody.

These lessons from the book of Ruth can inspire and guide us in our faith journey and daily walk with God, empowering us to live out the principles of love, faithfulness, and compassion in our relationships and interactions with others.

The book of Ruth beautifully portrays the discovery of the extraordinary within the ordinary. Through the seemingly mundane and ordinary aspects of life, such as loyalty, kindness, faithfulness, and humility, we witness the unfolding of a remarkable story that holds profound lessons for all. Ruth, a foreigner and a widow, and Boaz, a wealthy landowner, teach us that even in the midst of ordinary circumstances, God’s extraordinary plan can unfold.

The book of Ruth challenges us to look beyond appearances and societal norms, recognizing the value of individuals regardless of their background or status. It teaches us to embrace diversity, extend compassion, and care for one another as part of a loving community.

Moreover, the story of Ruth reminds us of God’s redemptive power and His ability to work through ordinary people to accomplish His extraordinary purposes. Ruth’s story ultimately connects to the lineage of Jesus Christ, emphasizing God’s faithfulness and His use of the ordinary to bring about extraordinary outcomes.

As Seventh-day Adventist youth, we are encouraged to find inspiration and guidance from the book of Ruth. By cultivating faithfulness, trust, kindness, and humility, we can discover the extraordinary within our own lives and make a positive impact on those around us.

May the story of Ruth inspire us to live purposefully, finding beauty and significance in the ordinary moments of life as we embrace God’s plan for us.

AY Program Idea: Cast the First Stone

John 8:7 (KJV) – “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.”

Dear brothers and sisters in Christ, today’s program is a message centered around the powerful and timeless words of Jesus: “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” This statement encapsulates the essence of mercy, forgiveness, and the transformative power of God’s grace.

In the passage from the Gospel of John, we encounter a situation where a woman caught in the act of adultery is brought before Jesus by the scribes and Pharisees. They intended to trap Jesus by forcing Him to choose between the law of Moses, which prescribed stoning for such acts, and His message of love and forgiveness. This moment gives us an opportunity to reflect on our own attitudes towards sin and the role we play in condemning others.

We are all sinners in need of God’s grace. None of us are exempt from making mistakes, and we should approach others with humility and empathy, realizing that we too have fallen short of the glory of God. Casting the first stone requires an acknowledgment of our own guilt and a deep understanding of the magnitude of God’s forgiveness in our lives.

Jesus’ response to the accusers was one of profound wisdom and compassion. He did not deny the seriousness of the woman’s sin, but He challenged the self-righteousness of her accusers, urging them to examine their own hearts and actions before passing judgment. As followers of Christ, we are called to emulate His mercy and compassion, extending forgiveness to others even when they fall short.

Our purpose as Christians is not to condemn, but to uplift and restore. God’s ultimate desire is for sinners to find redemption, healing, and transformation. When we recognize the power of God’s grace to change lives, we can become instruments of His love and mercy. By casting aside stones of condemnation, we create an environment where repentance, forgiveness, and restoration can thrive.

In a world plagued by judgmental attitudes and condemnation, we, as followers of Christ, are called to build a community where love and acceptance prevail. Let us not be quick to condemn others, but rather extend a helping hand to those who have stumbled. We are urged to be channels of God’s love, providing a safe space for people to find healing and restoration.

Group Discussion Questions:

The following are some group discussion questions for the congregation. These can be divided among groups, or everyone can have the same set of questions. Remember to create a safe and respectful space for everyone to share their thoughts and experiences during the discussion. Encourage participants to be open, honest, and willing to learn from one another’s perspectives

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1. What does it mean to “cast the first stone” in the context of the story of the adulterous woman?
2. Why do you think Jesus challenged the accusers to examine their own hearts before passing judgment?
3. How can we cultivate a spirit of humility and empathy when dealing with others’ sins or mistakes?
4. In what ways have you experienced God’s mercy and forgiveness in your own life? How does that influence your attitude towards others?
5. How can we create a safe and supportive environment within our church community where people feel comfortable seeking repentance, forgiveness, and restoration?
6. What are some practical ways we can extend compassion and forgiveness to those who have fallen short, while still upholding biblical standards?
7. How can we avoid falling into a judgmental mindset and instead promote a culture of acceptance and support?
8. What role does accountability play in the process of repentance and restoration? How can we balance holding others accountable with showing grace and mercy?
9. Have you ever witnessed or experienced the harmful effects of judgment and condemnation? How can we actively work against these negative attitudes within our church and community?
10. How can we be intentional in our efforts to follow Jesus’ example of mercy and compassion towards those who are struggling with sin or making mistakes?
11. Are there any biblical passages or stories that come to mind that reinforce the message of “casting the first stone”? How do they contribute to our understanding of grace and forgiveness?
12. How can we apply the teachings of Jesus and the insights from Ellen G. White’s writings to our daily lives, particularly when it comes to dealing with the sins and shortcomings of others?

Highlights and Conclusion

“God’s forgiveness is not merely a judicial act by which He sets us free from condemnation. It is not only forgiveness for sin but reclaiming from sin. It is the outflow of redeeming love that transforms the heart” (Steps to Christ, p. 23).

“Divine grace is not communicated to the soul merely as a covering for sin, but as a transforming power renewing the heart and sanctifying the life” (Steps to Christ, p. 18).

“Forgiveness has a broader meaning than many suppose. When we forgive others, we are not to say in our hearts, ‘I will forgive them, but I will never forget their unkindness and cruelty.’ We should strive to banish all such thoughts and feelings; for they are not in accordance with Christ’s teachings” (Thoughts from the Mount of Blessing, p. 115).

“We are to forgive others as we hope to be forgiven. However sorely they may have wounded us, we are not to cherish our grievances and sympathize with ourselves over our injuries, but as we hope to be pardoned for our offenses against God we are to pardon all who have done evil to us” (Thoughts from the Mount of Blessing, p. 115).

Sis. Ellen G. White’s writings consistently emphasize the boundless mercy, forgiveness, and transformative power of God’s grace. She encourages believers to extend the same forgiveness and compassion to others that they have received from God, emphasizing the importance of cultivating a spirit of mercy and grace in our interactions with one another.

Cultivating a spirit of humility and empathy when dealing with others’ sins or mistakes requires intentional effort and a deep understanding of God’s mercy and grace. Here are some practical steps we can take:

• Recognize our own need for mercy and forgiveness: Reflect on our own shortcomings and sins, acknowledging that we too are in need of God’s forgiveness. Understanding our own fallibility helps us approach others with humility and empathy.
• Seek understanding before passing judgment: Take the time to understand the context, motivations, and struggles that may have contributed to someone’s mistake or sin. Avoid hasty conclusions and practice empathy by putting ourselves in their shoes.
• Avoid a self-righteous attitude: Guard against a self-righteous mindset that leads to judgment and condemnation. Remember that we are all sinners in need of God’s grace, and our righteousness comes from Christ alone.
• Reflect on God’s mercy and grace: Meditate on the teachings of Jesus and the numerous examples of His forgiveness and compassion in the Bible. Allow His love and grace to shape our attitudes towards others, reminding ourselves of the immense forgiveness we have received.
• Practice active listening and compassionate communication: When someone confesses or acknowledges their mistakes, provide a safe space for them to share their struggles without fear of harsh judgment. Be attentive, understanding, and ready to extend a listening ear and a compassionate heart.
• Offer support and encouragement: Instead of condemning or shaming others for their sins or mistakes, offer a helping hand and words of encouragement. Provide guidance and support to help them overcome their struggles and find redemption.
• Pray for a spirit of humility and empathy: Ask God to transform our hearts, aligning them with His mercy and grace. Pray for a genuine desire to understand, forgive, and extend love to those who have stumbled.
• Model forgiveness and reconciliation: Lead by example in our relationships by demonstrating forgiveness and seeking reconciliation when conflicts arise. Showing mercy and extending grace can have a profound impact on others, encouraging them to do the same.
• Continually grow in our own understanding of God’s mercy: Study God’s Word and read the writings of spiritual leaders who emphasize the depths of God’s mercy and the importance of extending it to others. Let these teachings shape and refine our attitudes and actions.

Creating a safe and supportive environment within our church community, where people feel comfortable seeking repentance, forgiveness, and restoration, requires intentional effort and a culture of grace and love.

• Emphasize the love and acceptance of God: Regularly communicate and remind everyone of God’s unconditional love, grace, and willingness to forgive. Help individuals understand that their worth is not determined by their mistakes but by their identity as beloved children of God.
• Cultivate an atmosphere of non-judgment and confidentiality: Encourage an atmosphere where individuals feel safe sharing their struggles and sins without fear of condemnation or gossip. Promote confidentiality and trust, making it clear that what is shared in confidence remains confidential.
• Model vulnerability and humility: Leaders and influential members of the church can lead by example by sharing their own testimonies of repentance, forgiveness, and restoration. This vulnerability creates a safe space for others to open up about their own struggles.
• Provide accessible resources for spiritual growth and support: Offer resources such as Bible study materials, support groups, counseling services, and mentorship programs. These resources can guide individuals on their journey of repentance, forgiveness, and restoration.
• Establish a prayer ministry and prayer partners: Encourage individuals to pray for one another, especially those who are seeking repentance and restoration. Connect individuals with prayer partners who can support and intercede on their behalf.
• Foster a culture of forgiveness and reconciliation: Teach and emphasize the importance of forgiveness and reconciliation as central aspects of the Christian faith. Encourage individuals to initiate conversations, apologize, and seek reconciliation when conflicts arise.
• Offer pastoral care and counseling: Train and equip pastoral staff and lay leaders to provide compassionate pastoral care and counseling for individuals seeking repentance and restoration. Ensure that individuals have access to professional counseling services when needed.
• Create small groups for accountability and support: Establish small groups where individuals can share their struggles, support one another, and hold each other accountable in a loving and non-judgmental manner. These groups can provide a sense of community and encouragement.
• Celebrate stories of redemption and restoration: Share testimonies within the church community of individuals who have experienced God’s forgiveness and restoration. These stories inspire hope and encourage others to seek the same path of transformation.
• Practice grace-filled discipline: When necessary, approach the discipline process with grace, emphasizing restoration rather than punishment. Provide guidance and support during the discipline process, keeping the ultimate goal of redemption in mind.

Creating a safe and supportive environment for repentance, forgiveness, and restoration requires an intentional commitment to love, grace, and compassion. By fostering such an environment, we can help individuals experience healing, growth, and a deepening of their relationship with God and the church community.

Avoiding a judgmental mindset and promoting a culture of acceptance and support requires conscious effort and a commitment to following Christ’s example.

Regarding the role of accountability in the process of repentance and restoration, accountability helps individuals stay on track and maintain their commitment to change. It provides a supportive framework for growth and prevents individuals from falling back into destructive patterns.

Approach accountability with a mindset of grace and mercy, rather than solely focusing on punishment or condemnation. Remember that the goal is restoration, not shame or humiliation. Offer resources, guidance, and mentorship to aid individuals in their journey of repentance and restoration. Walk alongside them, providing encouragement and assistance whenever needed. Recognize that genuine repentance may involve setbacks. Be open to offering second chances.

As Christians and Seventh-day Adventists, the story of “casting the first stone” holds profound significance in our understanding of God’s mercy, forgiveness, and grace. It reminds us of the transformative power of Christ’s love and challenges us to cultivate a spirit of humility, empathy, and acceptance within our church community.

Sis. Ellen G. White’s writings complement this message, emphasizing the need for self-reflection, the recognition of our own sinfulness, and the importance of extending mercy and forgiveness to others. Through her insights, we are encouraged to create a safe and supportive environment where individuals feel comfortable seeking repentance, forgiveness, and restoration.

By embodying the principles of Christ’s teachings, we can build a community that reflects His love and grace. We can actively promote a culture that embraces acceptance, support, and accountability. It is through this balanced approach that we can extend grace and mercy while also upholding biblical standards and encouraging personal growth.

May we be known as a community that casts aside stones of judgment, offering instead a hand of mercy and a heart of understanding. By doing so, we can create an environment where repentance, forgiveness, and restoration flourish, ultimately drawing individuals closer to God and transforming lives for His glory.

AY Program Idea: Biblical Friendships

Welcome to our blog post on the dynamic topic of biblical friendships. As young individuals navigating the complexities of life, we often find solace, support, and strength in our relationships with others. But what sets apart a biblical friendship? How can we forge connections that not only bring joy and companionship, but also promote spiritual growth and encourage a deeper understanding of our faith?

In this blog post, we delve into the concept of biblical friendships and how they can serve as an avenue for personal and spiritual development. Inspired by the timeless proverb “iron sharpens iron,” we explore how these relationships can play a significant role in our journey as Adventist youth. By examining the principles and examples set forth in the Bible, we aim to shed light on the transformative power of cultivating friendships grounded in shared beliefs and values.

Throughout this article, we will address various aspects of biblical friendships, such as their defining characteristics, the role they play in our spiritual walk, and practical steps to nurture and strengthen these relationships. We believe that by understanding the significance of iron sharpening iron, we can foster a supportive community that fosters personal growth, discipleship, and a deeper connection with God.

What does the Bible say about Friendships?

Proverbs 27:17 (ESV) states, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” This verse, often quoted when discussing friendships, highlights the idea of mutual influence and growth. It suggests that friendships should be mutually beneficial, where individuals inspire, challenge, and encourage one another to grow in wisdom, character, and faith.

Proverbs 18:24 (NIV) emphasizes the importance of choosing friends wisely: “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” This verse underscores the significance of surrounding oneself with trustworthy and loyal companions who provide support and guidance during challenging times.

John 15:13 (NIV) reflects the sacrificial nature of friendship: “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” Jesus’s words remind us of the selflessness and unconditional love that should characterize our friendships, mirroring His own example of sacrificial love.

Ellen G. White, in her book “Messages to Young People,” emphasizes the influence of friendships on character development. She encourages young people to choose friends who will elevate and inspire them, stating that “we should associate with those only who will be a help and an encouragement to us in our religious life” (Messages to Young People, p. 403).

Sis. White also highlights the importance of spiritual compatibility in friendships. In her book “Steps to Christ,” she emphasizes that “those who are seeking true Christian fellowship will find it in the Bible” (Steps to Christ, p. 103). This suggests that friendships rooted in shared faith and a commitment to biblical principles can deepen spiritual growth and provide a foundation for mutual support and encouragement.

Throughout the Bible, we find examples of friendships that illustrate the power of companionship and shared faith. The friendships between David and Jonathan (1 Samuel 18:1-4), Paul and Timothy (2 Timothy 1:2), and Jesus and His disciples (John 15:15) exemplify the bonds of trust, loyalty, and spiritual unity that can exist within friendships.

Iron sharpens Iron.

“Iron sharpens iron” is a proverb that is often used to express the idea that people can improve and grow through challenging interactions and encounters with others who are equally skilled or strong. The proverb suggests that just as iron can be sharpened or refined by rubbing it against another piece of iron, individuals can enhance their abilities, character, and knowledge by engaging in constructive competition or collaboration with others who possess similar qualities or expertise.

In various contexts, “iron sharpens iron” can apply to different aspects of life. It can be relevant in areas such as sports, academics, professional development, personal relationships, or any situation where individuals push each other to excel and reach their full potential. By facing challenges, engaging in healthy competition, and learning from one another, individuals can enhance their skills, overcome obstacles, and become better versions of themselves.

The proverb also emphasizes the importance of surrounding oneself with individuals who challenge and inspire growth. By seeking out peers or mentors who are more experienced or talented, individuals can benefit from their knowledge and feedback, ultimately sharpening their own abilities.

Modern Day Friendships

Human connections are frequently intricate and capricious – they can be steady and reliable one moment, only to become tumultuous and vexing the next. Among the myriad challenges we face in our daily lives, navigating interpersonal relationships stands out as a prominent concern. Each day, we engage with individuals, forging various types of connections, and occasionally, we even form lasting friendships.

In contemporary society, there are individuals who may attempt to navigate life independently or declare, “I don’t need anyone.” However, in Ecclesiastes 4:7-12, we encounter the sobering lesson regarding the consequences of lacking companionship. Scripture enlightens us about the invaluable support friends provide, offering a helping hand when we stumble. Additionally, the Bible teaches us that unity in numbers makes overcoming challenges more formidable than attempting them solo.

It affirms that friendship is an essential component that adds meaning and richness to our existence. This echoes the earlier wisdom found in the book of Genesis, which states that it is not beneficial for humans to be alone. Thus, the Bible encourages us to actively pursue relationships, recognizing their inherent benefits and value for our personal well-being.

The Bible also recognizes that friendship can be complicated and disappointing at times. “Many will say they are loyal friends, but who can find one who is truly reliable?” (Proverbs 20:6).

Since there are no perfect people to be friends with, even the best advice in the world does not guarantee perfect friendships. There are general guidelines that will point you in the right direction in your relationships with others, but we ultimately have to face the challenges and frustrations that inevitably come with friendship.

In a way, those challenges are what friendships are for. As Proverbs puts it, Proverbs 27:17 – “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” Growing alongside other people makes us better, stronger, more reliable and resilient. Friends can bring out the best in each other.

The book of Proverbs and the book of Job also point out some examples of bad friendships. Job’s friends in particular spend almost the entire book of Job trying to convince their friend to admit to a sin he had never committed, constantly accusing him of being the cause of his own problems. Proverbs similarly contains many sayings warning about the dangers of false or compromised friendships.

It seems that friendship has always been complicated and troubled, even back in ancient times. Even Jesus was not immune to this. God, in human form, was betrayed, denied, and abandoned by the people closest to him in his darkest hour.

One amazing thing about the gospel is that it shows us how God is still willing to call human beings his friends, even though that friendship has been so full of humanity’s dysfunction. God’s love as we see it in Jesus is the best demonstration of true friendship. Look to God’s wisdom, and you will learn how to be a friend worth having.

Activity/Group Discussion

Group 1:

• Iron sharpens iron. How have you seen this principle proven true (or not) in your own life?
• Have you seen this be the case for others?
• Can you think of ways on how to apply this principle?
• Do your friendships live up to these guidelines, or are there some friendships that need growth?
• Are you the right kind of friend to the people around you, or do you need to work on some things?
• Share a personal experience where a friend positively influenced your spiritual journey. How did their friendship contribute to your growth and understanding of biblical principles?

Group 2:

• Reflect on the qualities you value in a biblical friend. What characteristics do you believe are essential for fostering a strong and supportive friendship within a Christian context?
• Discuss the challenges you face in maintaining biblical friendships in a world that often promotes values contrary to your faith. How do you navigate these challenges while staying true to your beliefs?
• In what ways can biblical friendships serve as a source of accountability and encouragement in your spiritual walk? Share examples of how you have experienced or witnessed this in your own life or within your youth group.
• Explore the concept of “iron sharpening iron” in the context of biblical friendships. How can the mutual sharpening and growth occur in these relationships? Provide examples from the Bible or your personal experiences.

Group 3:

• How do biblical friendships contribute to your overall well-being and emotional support? Discuss the importance of having friends who share your faith and values during both joyful and challenging times.
• Share any struggles or obstacles you have encountered in forming or maintaining biblical friendships. How can you actively overcome these obstacles and create an environment conducive to cultivating strong Christian relationships?
• Discuss the role of prayer and spiritual guidance in fostering and nurturing biblical friendships. How can prayer strengthen your friendships and help you navigate conflicts or disagreements that may arise?
• Explore the significance of forgiveness and reconciliation within biblical friendships. How can you apply biblical principles of forgiveness and reconciliation to restore and strengthen friendships that may have been strained or broken?

Group 4:

• Reflect on ways in which you can be a better biblical friend to others. How can you actively demonstrate Christ-like love, support, and encouragement within your friendships?
• In your experience, what are some common misconceptions or stereotypes about Christians or Seventh-day Adventists that might affect building friendships with non-believers? How can we address these misunderstandings and build bridges of understanding?
• Share a story of a positive friendship you have had with a non-believer. How did your shared values or differences impact your relationship? What did you learn from this friendship?
• How can we balance maintaining strong biblical friendships within the SDA community while also engaging in meaningful relationships with non-believers? What are some practical ways to ensure we are intentional about both?

Group 5:

• Discuss the importance of being an authentic witness through our friendships with non-believers. How can our actions, attitudes, and conversations reflect the love of Christ without compromising our beliefs?
• Share strategies or experiences of how you have effectively shared your faith with non-believing friends without pushing them away or making them feel judged. How can we approach conversations about faith in a respectful and loving manner?
• In what ways can we be a positive influence and example to our non-believing friends without compromising our own beliefs and values? How can we navigate challenging situations or moral dilemmas that may arise?
• Discuss the concept of “being in the world but not of the world” in the context of biblical friendships with non-believers. How can we strike a balance between participating in worldly activities and staying true to our faith?

Group 6:

• How can biblical friendships with non-believers serve as an opportunity for mutual growth and understanding? Share examples of how your friendships have challenged and deepened your own faith.
• Explore the biblical principles of love, acceptance, and respect in the context of friendships with non-believers. How can we demonstrate these qualities while staying true to our beliefs?
• Reflect on the challenges and rewards of building friendships with non-believers. How can these relationships contribute to our own spiritual growth and potentially impact the lives of our non-believing friends?

Highlights/Conclusion:

A biblical friendship is set apart by several distinct characteristics that differentiate it from other types of friendships:

• Shared Faith and Values: A biblical friendship is grounded in a shared commitment to faith and a common set of values derived from the teachings of the Bible. Both individuals prioritize their relationship with God and seek to align their lives with biblical principles.
• Spiritual Growth: A biblical friendship goes beyond mere companionship and joy; it actively promotes spiritual growth. Friends in a biblical friendship encourage and challenge one another to deepen their understanding of God, His Word, and their faith. They support each other in pursuing a closer relationship with God and becoming more Christ-like.
• Accountability: Biblical friendships thrive on mutual accountability. Friends in this type of relationship lovingly hold each other accountable to their faith and the moral standards set by Scripture. They provide guidance, correction, and support, helping one another stay on the path of righteousness.
• Encouragement and Support: In a biblical friendship, friends uplift and support one another in their spiritual journey. They offer encouragement, pray for each other, and provide a safe space for sharing struggles, doubts, and victories. They are a source of strength and comfort during challenging times.
• Love and Selflessness: A biblical friendship is characterized by genuine love and selflessness. Friends prioritize the well-being of each other, demonstrating the love of Christ through their actions and attitudes. They sacrificially serve and care for one another, seeking the best interests of their friend.
• Purpose and Heaven Focused: Biblical friendships are centered around a shared purpose and a common desire to advance God’s kingdom. Friends encourage one another to use their gifts, talents, and resources for the glory of God and the betterment of others. They join forces to impact the world around them positively.

To forge connections that bring joy, companionship, and also promote spiritual growth and a deeper understanding of our faith, consider the following approaches:

• Seek Like-minded Communities: Engage with groups, organizations, or fellowships that prioritize spiritual growth and share your beliefs and values. Actively participate in church activities, youth groups, or Bible study groups where you can connect with individuals who are also seeking to deepen their faith.
• Cultivate Authenticity and Vulnerability: Create an environment of trust and openness within your relationships. Be willing to share your own struggles, doubts, and questions about faith, encouraging others to do the same. Through vulnerability, you can foster deeper conversations that lead to personal growth and a greater understanding of your faith.
• Engage in Meaningful Discussions: Purposefully discuss and explore topics related to your faith and spiritual growth. Choose conversation topics that challenge and inspire, such as studying specific Bible passages, theological concepts, or exploring practical applications of faith in everyday life. Encourage open dialogue and the sharing of diverse perspectives to foster deeper understanding.
• Encourage Accountability Partnerships: Seek out individuals who share your desire for spiritual growth and establish accountability partnerships. Regularly check in with one another, sharing goals, challenges, and successes in your faith journey. Hold each other accountable to pursuing spiritual disciplines, such as prayer, Bible study, and acts of service.
• Engage in Discipleship: Seek out mentors or more mature believers who can guide you in your spiritual growth. Look for individuals who demonstrate a strong faith, wisdom, and understanding of the Scriptures. Establish intentional discipleship relationships where you can learn from their experiences and receive guidance in your own faith journey.
• Serve Together: Engage in service activities or mission projects with fellow believers. By serving others, you not only demonstrate Christ’s love but also deepen your own understanding of faith. Serving alongside others creates opportunities for shared experiences, bonding, and spiritual growth.
• Prioritize Prayer: Make prayer an essential part of your relationships. Pray for one another’s spiritual growth, struggles, and challenges. Dedicate time for prayer together, seeking God’s guidance, wisdom, and strength in your faith journey.
• Embrace Diversity: Foster relationships with individuals from different backgrounds and perspectives within the context of your faith community. Engaging with diverse believers can broaden your understanding of the faith, challenge assumptions, and provide opportunities for mutual learning and growth.

Remember, forging connections that promote spiritual growth and a deeper understanding of faith requires intentionality, openness, and a genuine desire to learn and grow together. It’s a journey that involves both seeking out like-minded individuals and embracing diversity, all while cultivating an environment of authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability.

To nurture and strengthen biblical relationships, consider the following practical steps:

• Prioritize Time Together: Make intentional efforts to spend quality time with your friends in a biblical relationship. Schedule regular meetups, whether in person or virtually, to engage in meaningful conversations, share experiences, and deepen your bond.
• Study the Bible Together: Explore the Scriptures together. Choose a book, passage, or topic to study collectively. Discuss and reflect on the teachings, applying them to your lives and encouraging one another’s understanding and application of biblical principles.
• Pray for Each Other: Lift one another up in prayer regularly. Share prayer requests and intercede on behalf of your friends. Seek God’s guidance, strength, and blessings for their lives, and let them know that you are praying for them.
• Practice Active Listening: Be present and attentive when engaging with your friends. Practice active listening, allowing them to share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences without judgment. Show genuine interest and empathy in their lives.
• Encourage and Affirm: Be intentional about offering words of encouragement and affirmation to your friends. Celebrate their accomplishments, acknowledge their growth, and remind them of their worth and value in God’s eyes. Build each other up with positive and uplifting words.
• Serve and Support: Look for opportunities to serve and support your friends in practical ways. Offer assistance, lend a helping hand, or provide emotional support when they face challenges or difficulties. Show Christ’s love through acts of kindness and selflessness.
• Practice Forgiveness and Reconciliation: Recognize that conflicts and misunderstandings may arise in any relationship. Be quick to forgive, seeking reconciliation and restoration when needed. Follow biblical principles of forgiveness, humility, and grace in addressing conflicts.
• Hold Each Other Accountable: Foster an environment of accountability within your biblical relationships. Lovingly challenge one another to live in alignment with biblical principles. Gently remind each other of commitments, commitments, and the pursuit of righteousness.
• Share Life’s Joys and Burdens: Be there for your friends in both joyful and challenging times. Celebrate milestones, achievements, and blessings together. Likewise, offer support, comfort, and empathy during difficult seasons. Share life’s joys and burdens, creating a space for vulnerability and mutual support.
• Practice Humility and Unity: Cultivate an attitude of humility and a willingness to prioritize unity over personal preferences or differences. Seek common ground, find ways to build bridges, and focus on the shared values and beliefs that unite you in Christ.

Remember, nurturing and strengthening biblical relationships is an ongoing process that requires time, effort, and commitment. By consistently practicing these steps, you can cultivate meaningful connections that bring glory to God and contribute to each other’s spiritual growth.

Biblical friendships with non-believers present unique opportunities to share the love of Christ, demonstrate His teachings, and potentially lead others to faith. Here are some key considerations for biblical friendships with non-believers:

• Love and Acceptance: As followers of Christ, we are called to love and accept all people, regardless of their beliefs. Building biblical friendships with non-believers begins with genuine care, respect, and a desire to understand their perspectives without compromising our own faith.
• Authentic Witness: Our friendships should serve as a reflection of Christ’s love and grace. By living out our faith authentically, we have an opportunity to be a witness to our non-believing friends. Our actions, attitudes, and words should align with our beliefs, demonstrating Christ’s transformative power in our lives.
• Respectful Dialogue: Engage in respectful and open dialogue about faith. Seek to understand their perspectives and share your own beliefs in a gentle and loving manner. Allow space for questions, doubts, and deep conversations, always listening attentively and responding with empathy.
• Pray for Them: Pray for your non-believing friends regularly. Lift them up to God, asking for His guidance, wisdom, and revelation. Pray for opportunities to share your faith, for their hearts to be open to the Gospel, and for the Holy Spirit to work in their lives.
• Live a Life of Integrity: Ensure that your actions align with your beliefs. Be a person of integrity, consistently exhibiting Christ-like character in all areas of your life. This will not only strengthen your own faith but also serve as a compelling testimony to non-believers.
• Share Your Testimony: Personal testimonies are powerful tools for sharing the Gospel. Share your own story of how your faith has impacted your life and transformed you. Be vulnerable and transparent, allowing others to see the genuine change that Christ has brought about in your life.
• Invite Them to Church or Gatherings: Extend invitations to your non-believing friends to attend church services, Bible studies, or Christian events. These opportunities can expose them to the community of believers, worship, and the teachings of Christ in a supportive and welcoming environment.
• Serve and Show Compassion: Actively demonstrate Christ’s love through acts of service and compassion. Look for opportunities to meet their needs, lend a helping hand, and show kindness. These actions can soften hearts and create opportunities for conversations about faith.
• Be Patient and Trust God’s Timing: Remember that each person’s journey to faith is unique. Be patient and trust in God’s timing. It may take time for your non-believing friends to come to a place of faith. Continue to pray, be a supportive friend, and allow the Holy Spirit to work in their lives.
• Depend on God’s Guidance: Seek God’s guidance in your biblical friendships with non-believers. Rely on the Holy Spirit to give you wisdom, discernment, and the right words to say. Trust in God’s sovereignty and His ability to work through your friendships for His purposes.

Building biblical friendships with non-believers requires sensitivity, love, and a genuine desire to share the hope of Christ. By living out our faith, engaging in respectful dialogue, and being a witness through our actions, we can plant seeds of faith and potentially lead others to a relationship with Jesus Christ.

Biblical friendships play a significant role in our spiritual walk by providing support, accountability, and encouragement. Contributing to our growth, maturation, and deeper understanding of our faith. These friendships play a crucial role in spurring us on to live out our faith authentically and impact the world for Christ.

Ay Program Idea: The Book of Ecclesiastes

Welcome, Adventist Youth! It’s time to embark on a journey through one of the most thought-provoking and enigmatic books in the Bible – the Book of Ecclesiastes.

If you’re looking for a straightforward, easy-to-follow guide to living your best life, Ecclesiastes might leave you scratching your head. It’s a book that asks some of the most challenging questions we face as humans: What is the meaning of life? What’s the point of all our toil and striving? Is there any purpose or hope in this world?

But despite its reputation for being a bit of a downer, Ecclesiastes is also a book of deep wisdom and profound insights. It challenges us to reexamine our priorities, our assumptions, and our expectations – to let go of the things that hold us back and embrace the things that truly matter.

So if you’re ready to dive into the deep end of biblical reflection, if you’re up for a challenge and willing to grapple with some big ideas, then this Adventist Youth program on Ecclesiastes is for you. We’ll explore the book’s themes and messages together, with plenty of discussion, reflection, and maybe even a little laughter along the way.

So let’s get started, and let’s see where this journey through Ecclesiastes takes us!

Introduction

The author of the Book of Ecclesiastes is believed to be King Solomon, who reigned over Israel during the 10th century BC. The book itself states that it was written by “the Teacher” or “Qoheleth,” which is a Hebrew word that means “one who gathers an assembly.” Some scholars debate whether Qoheleth was a pen name used by Solomon or another author writing in his style. However, the majority of scholars accept that the book was written by Solomon based on its content, style, and historical context.

The Book of Ecclesiastes does not provide a comprehensive account of the life of King Solomon. However, there are several references to Solomon throughout the book that provide some insights into his life and reign.

For example, in Ecclesiastes 1:12-18, the author describes how he, as the “Teacher” or “Qoheleth,” used his great wisdom to explore all kinds of knowledge and pleasure, but ultimately found them all to be meaningless and futile. This is reminiscent of Solomon’s reputation for being the wisest man who ever lived, as well as his legendary wealth and extravagance.

Additionally, in Ecclesiastes 2:4-11, the author describes how he tried to find fulfillment and purpose in various pursuits, such as building great works, accumulating wealth, and indulging in pleasure, but found them all to be empty and fleeting. This also echoes Solomon’s reign, during which he built the magnificent Temple in Jerusalem, as well as many other impressive structures, and amassed great wealth, but ultimately failed to find lasting satisfaction.

The Book of Ecclesiastes portrays King Solomon as a wise and powerful ruler who had great knowledge, wealth, and opportunities, but still struggled to find true meaning and purpose in life.

King Solomon is famously known for his great wisdom, wealth, and accomplishments, but he also experienced a deep sense of regret towards the end of his life. According to the biblical account in 1 Kings 11:1-13, Solomon had many wives, including foreign women who worshiped other gods. He also built altars and shrines for these gods, which was a direct violation of God’s commandments.

As a result, God became angry with Solomon and told him that his kingdom would be taken away from him and given to someone else. Although God spared Solomon’s reign for the sake of his father David, the judgment still weighed heavily on him. In Ecclesiastes, Solomon reflects on his life and acknowledges that he had made mistakes and wasted much of his time pursuing pleasure and worldly possessions.

In Ecclesiastes 2:17-18, Solomon writes, “So I hated life, because the work that is done under the sun was grievous to me. All of it is meaningless, a chasing after the wind. I hated all the things I had toiled for under the sun, because I must leave them to the one who comes after me.” These verses express Solomon’s deep sense of regret and frustration over the futility of his pursuits.

King Solomon’s life serves as a cautionary tale about the dangers of pursuing worldly pleasures and ignoring God’s commandments. Despite his great wisdom and accomplishments, he was not immune to the consequences of his actions, and his story reminds us that true fulfillment and happiness can only be found in a relationship with God.

Life’s Regrets and Freedom

Regret is a powerful and sometimes overwhelming feeling. But can hindsight and perspective turn regret into something better?

The book of Ecclesiastes shows us what it looks like for a wise person to look back on the things in life that cause them to feel regretful or cynical. This book shows us a man who realizes that the good things in life can disappear in an instant, and that not even riches, power, and even wisdom itself can fully prevent injustice, loneliness, tragedy, and ultimately death.

Ecclesiastes is a challenging book because of how it questions the meaning of morality in light of mortality. If we are all going to die, what is the point of it all? Or, put another way, if I know that I am going to die one day, what should really matter to me? Some people see value in temporary things like wealth, social status, influence, and power – but even these things can be taken away suddenly by unforeseen circumstances in life, and ultimately everything is taken away from even the most powerful people at death. (Ecclesiastes 2:9-11)

In our own time, it is easy to look at the lives of those with more influence or “followers” than us and to feel like we are small and insignificant by comparison. It’s an easy temptation – to think that we might be happier if only we could get this or that, if only we could get recognition, or work for the right employer, find the right romantic partner, or whatever else. But these things come and go, here one minute and gone the next. All the wealth and fame in the world are not enough for true fulfillment.

Sis. Ellen G. White taught that nothing in this world can truly satisfy our deepest needs and desires. This includes wealth, fame, and other material possessions. She believed that only a relationship with God could bring true fulfillment and happiness.

In her book “Steps to Christ,” White writes, “The things of the world cannot satisfy the needs of the soul. We may gain all that this world has to offer–wealth, fame, and power–but without Christ, we will still be empty and dissatisfied” (p. 27).

Pursuing worldly pleasures and possessions could actually be harmful to our spiritual lives. A preoccupation with material things could lead to greed, selfishness, and a loss of perspective on what is truly important in life.

In her book “Christ’s Object Lessons,” Sis. White writes, “The love of money and the love of display are the roots of all evil. They are idolatry. Those who are eager for wealth or for pre-eminence are buying a sad experience at the price of their souls” (p. 259).

Sis. White also believed that those who pursue fame and fortune were likely to become arrogant and self-centered. In her book “The Ministry of Healing,” she writes, “Those who are always seeking for recognition, for some high position which they may occupy, are not the ones who can be trusted to act from principle. They will be governed by expediency rather than by right” (p. 442).

Qoheleth gives us a gritty, honest, and grounded look at the meaning of life: sometimes, meaning and purpose elude us. Sometimes, life is just confusing and hard to pin down. But rather than leading to despair, Qoheleth promotes a surprisingly hopeful life philosophy: make the best of whatever situation you’re in, and take joy in the simple pleasures of life (Ecclesiastes 5:18-20). One day, God will clear away the confusion and frustration we face in this life, but until then we have to simply trust him and do what is right (Ecclesiastes 12:9-14).

Activity and Group Discussion

Group 1: Read Ecclesiastes 1:1-11. What emotions does this opening poem communicate to you? What does it say about life?

Read through Ecclesiastes chapter 2. What does this chapter say about fulfilment and purpose in life? Note especially verses 24-26. What do they say to you? Does this line up with other things you have read in the Bible?

Group 2: Read through Ecclesiastes 3:9-22. This passage says a lot about cycles and repetition in life, as well as injustice, judgment, and death. What stands out to you the most? Try to describe in your own words how this passage describes life. What role does God play? What does it say about death?

Read Ecclesiastes 4:1-12. What does this passage say about the importance of human relationships? What different perspectives does this passage give on human interaction?

Group 3: Read Ecclesiastes 5:8-20. What does this say about wealth, money, greed, and ambition? In what ways do you think these observations are applicable to our world today?

Read Ecclesiastes 6:1-6. What does this passage say about the sadness and “unfulfilment” of economically prosperous people? What does it say about not living life to the fullest? Do you think you can fully adopt this perspective for your life? Why or why not?

Group 4: Read Ecclesiastes 7:13-25. Do you think the author means that wisdom is pointless, or that we have to be careful how much we trust our own wisdom? What picture does he paint of the human condition? What advice in this passage do you find that applies to you?

Read Ecclesiastes 8:7-15. What does this passage say about social structure, chaos, laws, crime, justice, injustice, and the relationship of all these things to the meaning of life? What part does God seem to play here?

Group 5: Read Ecclesiastes 9:1-10. What surprising things does this passage say about sin, righteousness, and the fate of both good and bad people after death? How does this compare with what you know about common Christian beliefs about death?

Read Ecclesiastes 9:11-18. What does this passage say about “randomness” in life?

Group 6:  Ecclesiastes 9:17-12:8 is one very long poem. Given what you have read in the rest of the book, take your time and think over the different sections of the poem. Do this at your own pace. What parts stand out to you?

Read the conclusion of the book in Ecclesiastes 12:9-14. Does this seem like a satisfying conclusion for you, or does it leave you wanting more? Does the idea of judgment by God give you hope or fear? How might judgment be a good thing, in light of the rest of this book?

Highlights and Conclusion

Solomon was certainly one character in the Bible who shifted back and forth between being wise and foolish. He made all kinds of terrible choices alongside his good ones. What are we supposed to make of a life like that? More immediately, what do we think of our own lives, when we make a mix of good and bad choices?

Ecclesiastes invites us to look at our lives in perspective, to understand the place of the good and the bad in our growing process, to understand that there is a time for everything, and ultimately to face the fact that we have a limited time to get our lives right. But rather than letting those thoughts cause us to be fearful, ashamed, and directionless, Ecclesiastes offers us the chance to be bold, to make the best of every day and every moment we have, and to remember that ultimately God’s wisdom is the best way forward for our lives.

Letting go of our mistakes and weaknesses is a kind of freedom. Solomon had to learn the hard way that he couldn’t control everything, but we don’t have to. Wisdom is knowing our limitations and trusting that God knows how to run the world best. Peace is letting God take the weight of the world – and even our own lives – off our shoulders. Regret is no way to live. The way forward is trust, gratitude, love, and acceptance.

Instead of pursuing wealth and fame, Sis. White encouraged people to seek God and live a life of service to others. She believed that true happiness could only be found by following God’s will and living in harmony with His principles.

Here are some key lessons that can be learned from the book of Ecclesiastes:

• The pursuit of worldly pleasures is ultimately meaningless. Solomon tried everything that the world had to offer – wealth, power, knowledge, and pleasure – but he found that none of these things could bring lasting satisfaction. Instead, he concluded that true fulfillment can only be found in a relationship with God.
• Time is fleeting and valuable. Solomon reflects on the brevity of life and the importance of making the most of the time we have. He encourages us to enjoy the present moment and not to waste our time on meaningless pursuits.
• Wisdom is valuable but limited. Solomon was known for his great wisdom, but he acknowledged that even the wisest of people cannot understand everything. He reminds us to have humility and not to rely solely on our own understanding.
• Oppression and injustice are prevalent in the world. Solomon recognized that the world is full of oppression, injustice, and suffering. He encourages us to have compassion for those who are suffering and to work towards creating a more just and equitable society.
• God is in control. Throughout Ecclesiastes, Solomon emphasizes the sovereignty of God and the importance of trusting in Him. He reminds us that God’s plans and purposes are ultimately beyond our understanding, but we can trust that He is in control and working for our good.

Sis. White recognized that Ecclesiastes is a book that deals with the difficult realities of life, including the brevity of human existence and the vanity of worldly pursuits. In her book “Prophets and Kings,” she writes, “The book of Ecclesiastes has a deep significance, not alone for the youth, but for all those who have passed the meridian of life” (p. 58). She believed that the book’s message could help readers gain a deeper understanding of the human condition and the purpose of life.

Sis. White also emphasized the importance of seeking wisdom, as Solomon did in the book of Ecclesiastes. In her book “Education,” she writes, “The wisdom that Solomon asked of God is the wisdom that all who take counsel with God will receive. The meekness of the wise, their common sense, their courtesy, their purity, and steadfastness of purpose, are the fruits borne by them that are truly connected with God” (p. 120). She believed that by seeking wisdom from God, we can gain a deeper understanding of life and find true fulfillment.

As we come to the end of our Adventist Youth Program on the book of Ecclesiastes, we are reminded that the wisdom and insights contained in this book are just as relevant today as they were when they were written thousands of years ago. We have explored the themes of the brevity of life, the pursuit of worldly pleasures, the value of wisdom, the prevalence of injustice and suffering in the world, and the sovereignty of God.

Through our study of Ecclesiastes, we have been challenged to examine our own lives and priorities, and to seek true fulfillment and purpose in a relationship with God. We have been encouraged to make the most of the time we have, seek wisdom and understanding, show compassion to others, and trust in God’s sovereignty.

As we go forth from this program, let us remember the words of Ecclesiastes 12:13-14, which says, “Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man. For God will bring every deed into judgment, with every secret thing, whether good or evil.” Let us strive to live our lives in accordance with God’s will and purposes, and let us trust in Him to guide us and give us true fulfillment and happiness.